Making a change
Select an important aspect to change that is clearly linked to something you value
Describe in detail the change to yourself or someone else. Do this in the positive present tense, as if you had already made the change: what is the behaviour that is different and what do you see and hear and feel that is different now you have made this change.
What else do you notice has changed in this version of the future?
Now we start to break down what is required to bridge the gap: Write down one thing you can already do to bring this version of the future closer and when you will do it.
Think about what you can do when you hit a barrier: for example you can plan to ask yourself what you are learning from the setback. A review done well serves you for the future, and renews the spirit of adventure for the change you are making.
Ask those around you for the support you'd like to help you make the change. Old habits are sticky, so it is really good to have a nudge when you find yourself acting the old familiar way, rather than the new way that takes effort. Reset your intention and keep going, lapses don't matter much if you correct your course and get back on track.
I would say this.. but ask for #coaching if you hit barriers that you find really tricky. Some changes require the system around you to change too, and that can take time and thoughtful work in the conversations you have. Many of my clients are very clever thinkers, and still get a lot of value from having a conversation where they can explore all the stakeholder conversations and how they are currently thinking about these and find a way to transform that into new paths that are transformational. This kind of conversation is fun, helpful and highly memorable!
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.”
― Rumi
I wish you the best with your change..